If you already share device access, stick to what’s above board:
- On his iPhone 14: Phone app → Recents. That’s the only legit call log you’ll see without crossing a line. Anything beyond that (hidden recorders, spyware, etc.) is either illegal, shady, or both.
- iOS 17 is very locked down. “Discreet monitoring” of calls without clear consent isn’t realistically possible in a safe, legal way.
- If you both truly agree to monitoring, that needs to be an explicit conversation: what’s tracked, why, and for how long. Even then, many couples find it creates more anxiety than relief.
Instead of hunting for a secret tool, zoom out:
- What exactly is making you suspicious (timing of calls, hiding screen, new passcodes)?
- What would you do if your fears are confirmed?
Slow down, watch patterns over a few weeks, and plan a direct, calm talk about trust and boundaries.