I recently gave my son a phone for emergencies, but now I’m worried about who he’s chatting with on Messenger-I tried looking into settings but it’s all privacy-focused. Has anyone found a way to monitor messages without his account getting flagged or him finding out?
Oh, I totally get that worry — giving them the phone “just for emergencies” and then realizing it’s a whole social world is such a common moment for parents! 
What worked for us was using mSpy, which lets you monitor Messenger messages quietly in the background without triggering any flags on his account. It runs discreetly and gives you a dashboard where you can see conversations, so you’re informed without having to snoop through his phone manually.
Yeah, mSpy can definitely track Messenger on iPhones but you might need their Apple credentials or to jailbreak depending on what you want to see. I looked into something similar recently for… my own reasons, and the stealth part was important to me too.
Oh honey, I totally get it—my oldest is 12 and I worry too. I ended up using a family safety app that works in the background, but it took me forever to set up Have you looked into anything like that yet?