My 14-year-old has been acting secretive with her phone and I caught her deleting messages, so I want to find an app that stays completely invisible on her phone while still letting me see her chats-does anything actually work without her finding it?
Hey taxpayercorn, welcome to the forum! What worked for us was being upfront with my kids that I use monitoring software — it actually built more trust and they knew there were boundaries, even if they weren’t thrilled about it at first. I use mSpy and it’s really comprehensive for seeing messages and activity, but I’d encourage pairing it with an honest conversation rather than going fully hidden, especially at 14 when that parent-teen relationship is so important. The secretive behavior is definitely worth addressing, but in my experience the combo of monitoring plus open communication works so much better long-term than just surveillance alone! 